If you're a Modern Orthodox guy who interacts with haredim a pretty good amount or an apikorus like me, you've heard something like the following (and if you're like me, you've heard it a lot):
"So you're not frum/haredi? You haven't gone through the right experiences, that's all. You're just missing something. I can't explain what you're missing. You should talk to/read Rabbi Dovid Gottlieb/Rabbi Moshe Meiselman/Rabbi Avigdor Miller/Rabbi Chaim Zimmerman/the entire Talmud/Rabbi Aharon Feldman/Rabbi Jonathan Sacks/Professor Marc Shapiro/Professor Lawrence Kaplan/Rabbi Yaakov Wincelberg/Rabbi Natan Slifkin/an Aish rabbi/a Chabad rabbi. Yeah, I know you've gotten this sort of recommendation before, but trust me, this rav knows everything and is so up your alley. Hey, you're a open-minded guy right (sometimes this part is said sarcastically)? So trust me, you haven't talked to this rabbi, just take my word for it that he's somebody worth talking to."
Personally, I have no problem with this sort of recommendation. Who shouldn't like to have more things to read and interesting people to talk to, even if one doesn't agree with their worldview? But see, then I proceed to give recommendations back. But they never like that. They expect you to be open-minded and talk to people who think like them...but many never seem to want to be similarly open-minded.
To solve this problem, I'm issuing another challenge. If somebody would like to recommend up to three books for me, I will read them, on the condition he reads up to three books of my choice.* Alternatively, if somebody wants me to be in touch with up to two rabbis for me to ask my "questions," my interlocutor will give me some reasons he believes in Judaism and I will give him the names of some non-frum thinking people for him to ask his "questions" to (which he must ask as questions and ask respectfully). I will do my end of the bargain ASAP, while my interlocutor will have six months to fulfill his end. The sole condition is that my interlocutor uses his real name.**
(Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or comment here. First come, first serve. The challenge can be taken up by multiple individuals.)
[In other news: New Video-of-the-Whenever-I-Feel-Like-It at the bottom of the sidebar.]
*I can get most books on offer through Interlibrary Loan or worst comes to worst, I can buy via Amazon. As an alternative to books, multiple blog entries and journal articles can be used. If my interlocutor chooses the book option, we can also agree to write Amazon mini-reviews so people can know what we thought of the books.
**The challenge offer is null and void for individuals who have bandied about or stated the accusation that I've purposely obfuscated texts for my own (I would assume sinister) purposes. I can only think of two individuals (both haredi rabbis) in this category, but individuals who would even make such an accusation are clearly on a very different wavelength than me.