So apparently, when we agreed to talk about whether parents should indoctrinate their children with an Orthodox religious identity, Benzion was looking to talk about Orthodox parents specifically. In other words, while he himself isn't on board with certain Orthodox views, he thinks parents should indoctrinate children into their community, even if people like Benzion think that the community's view is wrong. In his view, I should have aimed to convince that neighbors, the government, or parents of Orthodox suasion that the latter shouldn't indoctrinate their children. But I hadn't agreed to debate whether the neighbors or government should take the kids away; also, of course I can't convince a person of Orthodox belief that his kids shouldn't be indoctrinated. What I had meant to do was convince secret skeptics in the frum community, heterodox people who indoctrinate their kids as Orthodox, people who are "Orthodox" but believe that other views are okay (usually, intellectually inconsistent individuals), and Orthodox people who are reconsidering their beliefs, that Orthodox indoctrination is a problem and they shouldn't engage in it. One of Benzion's commenters hit the nail on the head when she wrote:
So I think he would conclude that any parent who knows that Orthodoxy is just one of many options out there should not raise their children within the Orthodox system for those reasons.
She's right. On Facebook, I shmoozed with Benzion a bit: He also disagrees with certain ideas of Orthodoxy; he accepts its indoctrination as a social institution. In other words, since parents are Orthodox anyways (despite disagreement), they have the right to indoctrinate their kids. I'm not ready to argue against that; I'm just saying that those parents who doubt should expose their kids to other options.
Anyways, it seems we don't have a deep enough disagreement here to debate, so we've decided to postpone it until we (might) find something where we do disagree enough to debate.